Choosing the Right Relationship

A healthy relationship is not supposed to make your intestines feel like they are in a constant knot. If you feel like this when you are around a certain person, let’s pick an arbitrary number, ten times in a row, you need to find a new friendship.

So many of us are raised to believe that unacceptable behavior is acceptable; it’s not. I know that many of you reading this are under eighteen and have parents that perhaps are addicts. Therefore, there is a constant stream of intestinal knots. This is an awful situation and I can’t offer an easy solution. I can tell you to pray and that God hears you and just as importantly, don’t give up. Your eighteenth birthday will come and you will be able to move out on your own.

What I’m really talking about here however are your “friends.” You get to choose friends and at all ages you can find sometimes that you’ve made the wrong choices. That’s okay, because the diamonds are out there.

A healthy relationship (also know as diamonds) will have the following characteristics : making each other laugh, supporting each other’s hopes and dreams, championing each other’s growth, being available to go get an ice cream when the world stinks. A friend will be right there when you fail and when some idiot has broken your heart. Each of you gives 100% and although you may disagree from time to time, your intestines will never be knotted.

With our family members, sometimes, there is no choice but to have complicated relationships. But our friendships we get to choose the simple life. Don’t ever accept unacceptable behavior in friendships.